How many times have you tried to rewind? Go back to what you know, instead of moving forward?

The past may call you on the phone, text or send a very poorly spelled novel of an email. Regardless, it isn’t worth it.

Regardless, you’ve read the text and now your dealing with the proverbial aftermath. It’s like the invisibility of a spiders web on your skin, when you ‘can’t’ find it.

Y’all, I am writing this to encourage you to leave that message unread.

Are you trying to revert back to the person you were, back then? Or, maybe, you’re reflecting as those were your ‘glory days’. The bottom line is, you are not the person you were by any unit of measurement.

Look, we are all human. Humans learn by making mistakes. But new mistakes don’t have to be old ones. You don’t have to answer, the past has no new lessons to teach you.

THE PAST HAS NOTHING NEW TO SAY.

I have worked with a lot of people who are pushing to move forward. These people deal with a past that haunts them. It’s a past that haunts me too. It comes in many forms, constantly bombarding the deck of my mind with the stealthiest demons sappers. During the day, a bright flash and it’s the early 2000’s. Five minutes in the closet… then the blinding confusion as reality snaps back. It’s really hard to keep the two straight sometimes, ‘stumbling through a list of names before arriving at the right one to match the face looking at you’.

Haunted in your dreams, by demons buried deep in the ‘glory days’. Left riddled by exhaustion and unable to differentiate between a dream and the second worse moment in your life.

BUT

Instead of allowing my past to thrive, my life is a movement forward. I understand that in some circles it is considered spiritual or healing or good for your soul to keep digging kicking the proverbial dead horse and reviewing, but that is not for me. And I trust that after our talk today you will realize it is not for you (or anyone you know) because, unless you glance back and learn from a mistake, you’re just going to be staring at a damaged or empty past and that does you no good.

For my faith based readers, why are you insulting yourself once you’ve been forgiven? You shouldn’t be insulting yourself, and you know it….

I wouldn’t have to work if I had a nickle for all the ‘wou-sho-could’ves’ Ive heard in the last 24 months alone. Yet, I’m unemployed, broke and laying in bed writing a blog just to clear my head.

If it will make you feel better, on behalf of everyone who loves you, we’re sorry you had to go through all that… you didn’t deserve it…we know you’re hurt, but please know, if you’ll just look up, you’ll see that you can heal, forgive and (one day) you may even forget. The choice is yours. And, remember, as your friends, we want you to find healing and forgiveness because we want you to be happy.

Imagine life is like a camera — focus on what’s important, capture the good times, develop from the negatives and, if things don’t work out, take another shot, because for every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.

And, friends, you’ll lose your happiness if you’re too busy on the phone listening to the voices of the past. Why would you do that anyway, since you and I know that they have nothing new to say? Next time your past comes calling, let it go to voice mail and then delete it, because it’s got nothing new to say and you have your whole future waiting for you to arrive.

Need Help? My email is on the front page. I don’t care if I know you, I will listen without prejudice or judgement. Hit me up. A Kindness Line – Life Coach Chef Style!

I believe in all of you. -🍋💋