What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

I get that the whole point of my therapists plan is to get me to focus on the ‘glimmer’ of life, as opposed to my all star ‘triggers’. But there is just one little phrase in the English conversationalist that sets my petty aflame every time… ⬆️

Think about it. Have you ever been in a conversation when someone busts out with either “amirite” or “ya know”?

Maybe I do, maybe I don’t. Maybe I just don’t know what you’re talking about because my experiences in situations are individually different based on my Neurodiversity. Maybe I didn’t have my hearing aid on. Or just maybe I just want to see your reaction when I piss in your party punch.

Either way, I can’t stand this casual add on, so I pretend I’m Nancy Regan and just say No.🤣😂

In my humble experience, the greatest manipulation happens when I sacrifice my own thoughts in order to mask for society.

It’s even more damaging because as an individual on an already excelled learning path about my individuality, should I agree but not fully understand I feel forced into masking into something I am not.

Masking is a term used to describe when people on the spectrum suppress or hide their disorder’s characteristics. This can include: 

• Suppressing behaviors that others may consider “weird” or soothing, such as stimming or intense interests 
• Mirroring the behaviors of neurotypical people 
• Developing “scripts” that work in social situations 
• Pretending 
• Conversations feeling unnatural and not flowing smoothly

I’ve spent the last 41 years of my life masking to fit into my family and society. Sure, I can walk like a duck and talk like a duck. It isn’t until you actually get to know me (or read this blog consistently) that my neurodivergence comes to light.

What a negatively contexted question for a Wednesday…. Annie no likey! 🤬